Pam Stenzel - have you heard her speak?

Wow you guys, wow-wow-wow. I really can't say much more. If you ever have the opportunity to hear her speak you need to take advantage of it. She speaks to teens and preteens about abstinence and I have to tell you... WOW. The kids were a little ... YIKES... over her because she speaks loud and frank and directly to the point. DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED. Abortion, adoption, raising the child, STDs, emotions, peer pressure... no ifs, ands or buts about it ... God did not ... no way, no how... God did not intend for sex to happen outside of marriage. You can look on youtube, there are a few of her lectures. But these were hard things for the kids to hear and exactly what parents want them to hear. She shared ideas about how to help your child achieve the goal of abstinence until marriage. She gave the example of saying...

Don't have sex, but if you do... use a condom.

Being like...

Don't steal, but if the peer pressure is just too much and you have to steal,
let me show you how to do it so you don't get caught.

Luke and I went to a Lutheran church-run abstinence program yesterday. This was our second year going at it was from 9:30 am - 9:30 pm, there were 500 people in attendance and 4-5 different speakers on different topics. I would like to share them in detail but it will be so much so I will do them a couple of days apart so you can read and not get lost by the length of my entry.

Look for topics on teen hormones, gender orientation, how to talk to your kids about sex and about our experience overall at this seminar. And if you have the opportunity to see Pam Stenzel she will change your world. God found the perfect person to get his message out. I really hope she is there next year because John needs to hear her. I tried to talk to him about it today and he can't buy in to it, it is so frustrating for me because we have our almost 13 y/o son sitting on the couch talking ot us, saying he wants to commit to being abstinent until marriage and his dad saying it is so not realistic. I am so angry with him right now. If this is a goal for Luke then as his parents we need to try our hardest to help him reach that goal. Pam suggested not letting your child date until he's 16 and then when he's 16, only group dates until high school graduation. Then he only has about 4-5 years (on average) before he gets married to work on this goal of virginity until marriage, instead of 8-10 years.

Did you know that there are 30 THIRTY.... THIRTY sexually transmitted diseases that our kids can catch? I can't remember the exact # of those that have no cure... NO CURE. A large number of women are sterile today because 15 years ago they were having sex and not getting their STDs treated and have left them sterile.

Our kids are kids, they are kids... they should not be having sex, they are too young to have to deal with the consequences of choosing between life and choice and then to have to choose to raise their baby or put it up for adoption. She told the boys that if they have sex, get a girl pregnant and she wants to have an abortion, he has NO SAY in it and if she wants to keep it, by california law he is responsible to pay child support, it is the law now that the father be listed on the birth certificate and his wages will be garnished and he has NO SAY.



Pam Stenzel will be in my prayers in her travels as she tries to reach kids all over the world... that Virginity is Cool! She is amazing. Pam is not a touchy-feely, lovey-dovey speaker. But she can certainly get her point across. I thank God for her and pray that many many people can hear her speak.